“The Life of David” Part 8 – Handling Disappointment

When things don’t go like we want or expect, we usually have one of three responses:

A)  You’re devastated – angry, consumed with sadness, paralyzed with emotion etc. OR

B)  You’re in denial – don’t want to talk about it, put your head in the sand or sweep it under the rug OR

C)  You embrace it – accept it, believe God is in the middle of it and is for you.

  1. Can you think of a time when you reacted in one of the three ways to disappointment?  Would you share your story?
  2. How did David handle disappointment?  Read 1 Chronicles 28:2-3.  What did David want/expect to accomplish before the end of his life? Continue by reading vs 4.  Talk about how David responded to his disappointment.
  3. When we experience disappointment, we have three questions to ask ourselves:  (a) Where is my delight? (In what do I delight?) (b) Where is my devotion? (Am I living for God’s Kingdom or my own legacy?) and (c) What is my direction? (Where is my focus?) Read vs 5-7 and discuss how you think David would have answered the three questions.  Continue by reading Ps 37:4 which was written by David, and discuss it’s meaning.  Which of the above three questions seems to be the one you need to consider today?
  4. Finish reading 1 Chronicles 28.  What other insights do you have from David’s life that could help you handle disappointments well?


1 Chronicles 28: 2  - 10
2King David rose to his feet and said: “Listen to me, my fellow Israelites, my people. I had it in my heart to build a house as a place of rest for the ark of the covenant of the Lord, for the footstool of our God, and I made plans to build it. 3But God said to me, ‘You are not to build a house for my Name, because you are a warrior and have shed blood.’
4“Yet the Lord, the God of Israel, chose me from my whole family to be king over Israel forever. He chose Judah as leader, and from the tribe of Judah he chose my family, and from my father’s sons he was pleased to make me king over all Israel. 5Of all my sons—and the Lordhas given me many—he has chosen my son Solomon to sit on the throne of the kingdom of the Lordover Israel. 6He said to me: ‘Solomon your son is the one who will build my house and my courts, for I have chosen him to be my son, and I will be his father. 7I will establish his kingdom forever if he is unswerving in carrying out my commands and laws, as is being done at this time.’
8“So now I charge you in the sight of all Israel and of the assembly of the Lord, and in the hearing of our God: Be careful to follow all the commands of the Lordyour God, that you may possess this good land and pass it on as an inheritance to your descendants forever.
9“And you, my son Solomon, acknowledge the God of your father, and serve him with wholehearted devotion and with a willing mind, for the Lordsearches every heart and understands every desire and every thought. If you seek him, he will be found by you; but if you forsake him, he will reject you forever. 10Consider now, for the Lordhas chosen you to build a house as the sanctuary. Be strong and do the work.”
1 Chronicles 29: 1 – 5
1Then King David said to the whole assembly: “My son Solomon, the one whom God has chosen, is young and inexperienced. The task is great, because this palatial structure is not for man but for the Lord God.2 With all my resources I have provided for the temple of my God—gold for the gold work, silver for the silver, bronze for the bronze, iron for the iron and wood for the wood, as well as onyx for the settings, turquoise, stones of various colors, and all kinds of fine stone and marble—all of these in large quantities.3 Besides, in my devotion to the temple of my God I now give my personal treasures of gold and silver for the temple of my God, over and above everything I have provided for this holy temple: 4 three thousand talents of gold (gold of Ophir) and seven thousand talents of refined silver, for the overlaying of the walls of the buildings, 5 for the gold work and the silver work, and for all the work to be done by the craftsmen. Now, who is willing to consecrate themselves to the Lord today?”
1 Chronicles 29: 11 – 12
11 Yours, Lord, is the greatness and the power
and the glory and the majesty and the splendor,
for everything in heaven and earth is yours.
Yours, Lord, is the kingdom;
you are exalted as head over all.
12 Wealth and honor come from you;
you are the ruler of all things.
Psalm 37: 4
4 Take delight in the Lord,
and he will give you the desires of your heart.
Psalm 40: 8
8 I desire to do your will, my God;
your law is within my heart.”
Matthew 6: 19 – 20
19 “Do not store up for yourselves treasures on earth, where moths and vermin destroy, and where thieves break in and steal. 20 But store up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where moths and vermin do not destroy, and where thieves do not break in and steal.
Proverbs 19: 21
21 Many are the plans in a person’s heart,
but it is the Lord’s purpose that prevails.